She is darkness and seduction. A mixture of sweetness and poison. You can’t take your eyes off her. You want to know her, but something makes you pause. Caution lingers. Intrigue stirs. Mystery follows. Who is she?She is a woman who has discovered Dark Feminine Energy.How do I know this woman? Because I am her.
Hold up. Where are my manners? You’re probably wondering who I am.
Allow me to introduce myself. My name is Barbie Portiez, also known as Barbie La Bruja. I’m a mental health therapist, spiritual life coach, practitioner of Santería and Hoodoo, and of course, an all-around bad bitch. Nice to meet you.
Now, let’s get into why I’m really here. I want to break down what Dark Feminine Energy is and what it is not.
Traditional femininity often asks us to be nurturing, soft, and quiet. But Dark Feminine Energy asks something different.
Femininity and Darkness? Say What Now?
Like many things in life, femininity has two sides. Light and dark. We are taught to associate darkness with evil, with danger, with things to be feared. But let’s go ahead and throw that idea away right now.
Dark does not mean bad.
In recent years, shadow work has grown in popularity. That’s because we all have shadow sides. We cannot heal unless we are willing to embrace, understand, and love them. The same is true with the feminine.
There are shadow traits within femininity. Some of the key ones include:
- Seduction
- Mystery
- Deep intuition
- Passion and power
- Self-sovereignty and independence
Traditional femininity often asks us to be nurturing, soft, and quiet. But Dark Feminine Energy asks something different. It asks us to be raw. To be real. To take up space. No more conforming. No more shrinking.
If you need a visual, think of Kali, Lilith, Hecate, or Oya, not Aphrodite. These goddesses are bold. They are brazen. They are seductive. And yes, they are a little dangerous.
The Honey and the Shadow: Softness and Seduction
Let me make one thing clear, softness does not equal weakness.
This ain’t that.
In fact, softness is a core part of the shadow. Think about how you speak to someone you love. The tenderness in your voice. The way you acknowledge your own emotions. The moments when you choose to rest, guilt-free.
That is softness. That is power.
Softness is floral perfume worn for yourself. It is presence. It is choosing not to shrink in a world that demands you do.
Then there’s seduction. That is power in motion.
Seduction is how you walk into a room and own it without uttering a single word. It’s how you speak with authority and command respect without raising your voice. Moreover, It’s knowing you are your own altar. It’s when people gather not because you begged them to but because they’re drawn to your fire.
They say, “You talk like you’re casting a spell.” And you are.
The magic of the Dark Feminine is in mixing these two. Stirring the honey and the shadow into a single potion. And serving it with grace.
How I Walk Into a Room
You may ask, “Barbie, how do you do this?”
Let me tell you.
When I walk into a room, I bring all of me. Whether I’m meeting a client or walking into a lounge, I leave nothing at the door. First, you’ll catch my scent. I make my own oils and wear specific perfumes to align with my intention.
I dress myself with devotion. Every lipstick. Each necklace follows. Every detail speaks. My look speaks before I do.
I walk slowly. With purpose. My energy always enters first. When I do speak, my words drip with softness. My voice is laced with honey. And I listen, not just with my ears, but with my whole body.
I read the room. Moreover, I feel what is needed. And I become it. Without anyone asking.
I am the medicine. Furthermore, I am the mirror. I blend shadow with sweetness and let it pour.
Activate It
Anyone can tap into this energy.
The first step? Reclaim your shadow. That means doing the work. Journaling. Mirror work. Sitting with the parts of yourself you’ve avoided. Ask the hard questions:
- What makes me so angry?
- Why am I afraid to be alone?
- Why do I keep overextending myself?
My motto is “Healing in the Dark.” Because that’s where the truth lives.
Once you’ve done that, start seducing yourself. Yes, you heard me right. Seduce. Yourself.
This isn’t just bubble baths and face masks. This goes beyond self-love. Touch your body. Admire yourself in the mirror. Fall in love with the way your thighs curve. The slope of your nose. The kink in your hair.
Fall deeply in love, with you.
Put on a seductive playlist. Dance. Move. Let yourself feel good.
And when you’re ready, walk into the room like you are the main character. Because you are. Don’t hide in the back. Walk to the center. Be seen. Take up space.
Even if it scares you, do it anyway.
Spiritual Tools That Help
There are sacred tools you can use to deepen your practice.
If you’re into crystals, here are some of my favorites:
- Carnelian
- Rose Quartz
- Citrine
- Red Jasper
- Black Obsidian
If you like oils, try miel del amor (Honey of Love) or Ven a mí (Come to Me), I make both. You can also carry a Jezebel root. If you know, you know.
These aren’t shortcuts. They’re amplifiers. Use them with intention.
You Are Her
This isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about remembering who you’ve always been.
Embrace the honey. Tap dance in the shadows. Let her out.
She’s been waiting for you.
